Sex Sells

Not only do we as individuals enjoy sex, but we as a society enjoy it and crave it as well. I know I always talk about tips and issues about sex but I thought it might be a good idea to look at the way sex has also influenced our culture. Sure there are hundreds of different ways it has affected us, but let’s look at one very specific way: advertising!

Sex in advertising is the use of sexual images or sex appeal in advertising in order to attract an audience to a particular product. Some people think it exploits the models in these ads, but some of the most popular companies and brands have made loads of money using this technique. Check out a few of these ads I thought were worth taking a second look at!

This ad is known as the “gang bang ad” & was so racy it was even banned in Italy!

Since when is eating a burger so sexy?? But more importantly… since when is Paris THAT hot?! 😀 That’s nothing– you should see the video version!

Doesn’t it just look so sexy when she stuffs that burger in her mouth?– NOT!! haha

Hmmm… I wonder what they’re even advertising here, but that butt sure does look juicy!

Again with the burgers?!? But Burger King is pretty damn delicious!!

Hopefully this ad is for the jeans!!

Sex is literally everywhere we look and sometimes we don’t even notice it. Companies know how much people love sex and that’s how they sell their products to us. But hey! It works!! And even though it’s mostly the women which are portrayed to be sexy doesn’t mean the ads are geared only toward men. Women like them too. I mean…who wouldn’t want to buy some Dolce & Gabbana stuff if it’s gonna make you look like THAT girl! I’m kidding though. For the record, I believe everyone should love the skin their in 🙂

BUT sometimes companies go a little too far & it makes consumers angry. Take, for example, this French anti-smoking ad.

Kinda disturbing right?

Sex is literally a part of our daily lives whether we see it or not & that’s why I think it’s so important to TALK about it!!

Sex quote of the day: “If you use the electric vibrator near water, you will come & go at the same time.”

The bigger the better?

Does size really matter? Should a man’s penis be long or wide or thick or thin or short or narrow? People ask these questions all the time and men are always competing with each other to see who has the biggest package, but I feel like there are no right or wrong answers. Everyone is different and we all have our own likes and dislikes. However, I will say I have some opinion on the matter….

Sure size does matter to a certain extent. But we have to realize and take into account that the average man’s penis is 5 1/2 to 6 inches long. So men can take a chill pill & relax. You would be pushing Mother Nature if you expected to be HUGE.

One important thing to remember as well is the fact that quality is definitely not synonymous with quantity! For example… Tyrone “Muggsy” Bogues was still able to dunk a basketball! See where I’m going with this? If a man isn’t good in bed and doesn’t know what he is doing what is the point of having all that junk?

The truth is… what women really want is a man that can satisfy her in bed. She isn’t lying there with a ruler in her hand.

Many women even say they would rather their man be thick than long because it feels better.

The bottom line is… Men need to stop obsessing about their penis size and worry more about their waist size which can cause more problems in the sack! Bet you never knew that!!

So girls make sure you don’t make too many mean comments and hurt your guys’ feelings. Just let ’em show you what they’re working with 😉

Sex quote of the day: “It isn’t premarital sex if you have no intention of getting married.”

Going down South

Head… eating out… blow job… Going down…

Call it what you may. We all know what it is… ORAL SEX!

So I decided to blog about this topic today because I have recently come across too many of my friends who do not take part in this activity. Don’t get me wrong- I respect everyone’s personal opinion, but when I asked them “why?” they had no good reason!

They just told me they never had & weren’t really sure what was holding them back.

So I decided to look up some of the reasons why people might decide not to engage in oral sex and talk about them for a little bit.

So some people do not like the taste of oral sex & sure that’s fine if you have actually tried it and are positive you just can’t handle it. I mean, it’s not for everyone! But you have to remember that everyone is different so you should not judge every partner on a past experience you have had!

There are also some things you can try to do to change that. For example, why not try some flavored lubricant? Then you can pleasure your partner and taste something yummy at the same time. Mmmm strawberry!

I have also heard that people don’t like the smell that comes with oral sex. But again remember that everyone is different! Here’s a tip: Try catching your partner as soon as he/she gets out of the shower. Better yet! Suggest a sexy shower for the both of you 😉

A big reason is that people have never done it and the longer they go without doing it the more they push it back… mostly because they fear they won’t know how since they have never tried. Well all I can say to that is– you gotta start somewhere! There is a first time for everything and trust me, oral sex isn’t something anyone gets lessons on anyway. It’s just something you try and learn as you go along.

Every partner you have will  be different so most people have to learn all over again with someone new. Either way, there are tons of ways to “learn” and gets tips on how to give oral sex.

The reason why I encourage you all to try oral sex is because it can enhance your sex life so much! It is a way to learn more about your partner and it adds to foreplay. Oh and did I mention.. it feels awesome!

Oh and before you go here’s a little funny joke about oral sex…

Sex quote of the day:  “Researchers have found that oral sex among teenagers has doubled in the last ten years. So who says there is no lasting Clinton legacy.”

Be safe- wear a helmet!

Okay, so I promised in my last post that I would talk about things other than condoms because YES there are other ways to have safe sex…

#1: ABSTINENCE… hahahaha okay that made me laugh too! This blog isn’t about stopping sex- it’s about having it!! So let’s move on from that. Whew!

#2: The rhythm method: When a couple chooses not to have sex on days when the female is the most fertile. This is a good method for people who would rather not use contraceptives either for personal or religious reasons. However, there is A LOT of room for error!

#3: Barrier Methods: These include contraceptive sponges, dental dam, diaphragms, cervical caps & shields and male & female condoms. Remember, these are the ONLY methods which will protect against pregnancy AND STDs at the same time!!!

Barrier Methods of Birth Control

#4: Hormonal Methods: These include the pill, the shot, the patch and the vaginal ring. These are all good methods to use when you are in a monogamous relationship because they do not protect against HIV and other STDs so you should be sure you and your partner have been tested!

#5: Implantable Devices: These include implantable rods and intrauterine devices. These are good because they last a long time and you don’t have to worry about daily pills or things you might forget. You need to plan ahead for these though because they last at least 5 to 10 years.

Intrauterine Device (IUD)

#6: Permanent Birth Control Methods: These are irreversible procedures which cause you to never be able to get pregnant. You should put a lot of thought into your decision before getting one of these done because you CAN’T change your mind!

#7: Emergency Contraception: This is something that is taken to prevent pregnancy once you have already had sex. It should not be used as a regular form of birth control though. The name says it all: only in the case of an emergency! But since you have read all the other ways to be safe you shouldn’t even have to use this one 🙂

So now you have all the information you need to keep having lots of sex and enjoying it… safely of course! Thing to remember!…

1. Condoms and other barrier methods are the ONLY way to protect against STDs

2. In case of an emergency get the morning after pill!

Okay you’re ready… now go have SEX!

Sex quote of the day: “Remember when safe sex meant not getting caught?”

No glove, no love

Okay so we all know I love sex! I love talking about it and learning about it and… well you know! 😉 BUT I still think it’s really important to have safe sex! I’m not here to be your mom or anything but if you only knew the gross things out there you would believe me when I say condoms are your best friend!

I know people come up with all different excuses as to why they don’t use condoms and I bet I could come up with arguments as to why none of those are a good enough reason…

Let’s see….

1. Condoms are uncomfortable: According to the Daily News, many men think that condoms are uncomfortable because they do not fit properly. Stop being lazy & keep looking for the right ones! They are out there somewhere and once you find the one that fits you well, it will all be worth it.

2. There is another form of birth control being used such as the pill: The pill does not protect against STDs and HIV. Babies are not the only thing you should be worried about. 19 million new infections occur every year!

3. They are too expensive: First of all there are many places that will give away condoms for free such as Planned Parenthood. Colleges also give away condoms like candy at health centers.Secondly, do you have any idea how much a baby costs!? Just the first year could cost over $10,000! A box of condoms costs less than $20. You do the math…

4. They make sex less enjoyable: This brings me back to the wrong size and type. Keep looking!! There will be one that makes sex feel just as great as without a condom and maybe even better!

5. Putting a condom on takes away from the “moment”: There are plenty of ways to incorporate putting a condom on into foreplay. There are even sexy ways to apply a condom so there will never be any lulls in the rhythm of passion.

These are just 5 excuses I have heard people say when the subject of condom usage comes up. As you can see, I came up with solutions for all of them. I’m sure there are plenty more excuses and solutions where those came from.

Plus, condom companies are constantly doing research to see how they can create new condoms to improve your sex life and increase your enjoyment of sex. Have you heard of the new Trojan Ecstasy condoms? Supposedly they feel like you’re not even wearing one!

Sure I know there are also different ways to protect against pregnancy, HIV and other STDs, but this is one of the simplest and cheapest methods. I promise to talk about all the other ways in another post though just so you can have more choices.

So I guess what I’m trying to say is yes, have lots and lots of sex! It’s great!! But please please please BE SAFE!

Sex quote of the day: “An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away.”

Learn to love yourself

So it’s the day after Valentine’s Day… thank God for that! I am sorry to everyone who loves Valentine’s Day, but really I think it is just a way for companies to make money from all the men who feel obligated to spoil their girlfriends and wives on this one day out of the entire year. I mean, who says you should show your love on ONE day and not the other 364? Seems ridiculous to me.

And not only are people spending unnecessary money, but what about all those people who are single? Even though I am happy to have a wonderful boyfriend in my life, I bet this day makes them feel like SH!T and to me that’s not fair at all!

As you can see, I am not such a fan of the actual holiday.  Although, I must say that the movie with this title was pretty amusing! If you haven’t seen it I’d say it was a pretty good romantic comedy!

That’s why my post is dedicated to all the people who were ALONE yesterday and any other day of the year 🙂 And since my blog is about SEX that brings me to having sex all on your own… aka masturbation!

This topic tends to make people blush a lot of the time, but to tell you the truth, it’s nothing to be embarrassed about! Masturbation is natural and can even enhance your sex life. When you masturbate you learn more about yourself… your likes & your dislikes. It better prepares you for sex with a partner (if you have one) because then you are prepared and you know exactly what will turn you on in bed.

Here’s another plus! –> Women have a better chance at achieving an orgasm when they masturbate than when they have sexual intercourse! 56% of women have an orgasm every time they masturbate compared with only 24% who do the same with a partner. Surprising huh?

And since my blog is about sex you would think there is nothing here for the virgin population, but alas! Here is something for you virgins out there! You can all masturbate and not worry about breaking your vows of abstinence!

But don’t get carried away now! Masturbating TOO much may make you lose interest in having sex with other people altogether. Masturbating too vigorously may also hurt you. You don’t want any of that.. ouch!

But hey as long as you don’t overdo it, masturbating is completely natural and healthy for you. So the next time you’re bummed that you don’t have plans turn that frown upside down and take the time to stay in and get to know yourself a little better 😉

Sex Quote of the Day: “Don’t knock masturbation. It’s sex with someone I love.”

Yes! Yes! Yes!

Why do we have sex?

–Because it feels good? Yes!

–Because it is a form of intimacy with our partners? Yes!

–Because it is a way to relieve stress? Yes!

There are a lot of reasons people have sex, but most importantly the one reason most people have sex is so that they can have an ORGASM

Yes we have sex for 15 minutes, half an hour or maybe even 3 hours just for those few seconds of intense pleasure in the end. But come on, let’s admit it: it is soooo worth it!!

But let’s rewind for a second…

All this talk about orgasms makes it seem like it’s something we should all know about and have experienced before. but I know how it is… some people out there do not get orgasms (I’m sorry) Studies have shown that only 1 in 3 women experience an orgasm during sex, which means 2/3 of women out there are not getting off when they have sex!!

No need to worry though. There are different things that you can try in order to reach an orgasm. Everyone is different and sometimes it takes a while to figure out what is the right thing for you.

Maybe the problem is that you are not sure what an orgasm is. Truth is… no one can tell you exactly what an orgasm is supposed to feel like. So the best way to figure yourself out is experimentation! Sex is all about trying new things. Try different positions with your partner or try things out on yourself first. Don’t be afraid to try!

One day you might think you know what an orgasm is and the next when you feel something even better you might find out you were completely wrong. If you want to know what I mean, you should watch Coming Soon… very funny chick flick! That same thing happens to the girl in the movie… watch!

Like I said, just keep trying. It can’t hurt to keep having sex! It’s good for you. Plus, once you start having orgasms I guarantee you will never want to stop!

Oh, and I bet you never knew having orgasms could decrease your physiologic age! Don’t believe me? Ask Dr. Oz!

Cum again soon!! (haha)

Sex quote of the day: “Sex is like air. It’s not important unless you aren’t getting any.”