Let’s Not Be So Shy About Sex

Can you believe there is an entire day dedicated to this idea? This Sunday, July 31st, 2011 is Let’s Not Be So Shy About Sex Day!

That must mean that there are enough people around who are so shy about sex that we need an entire day focused on getting them to let loose! I must say… this saddens me quite a bit because I do not think sex is something to be shy about! Let’s face it people… without sex none of us would be here! Don’t tell me you think your mom was a virgin!

And we all know by now that I don’t think reproduction is the only excuse for sex! (In fact, reproduction may only decrease the amount of sex you have so you might want to put that off as long as possible.) Sex is amazing and fabulous and exhilarating! Can you tell I like it?

Anyway, for those of you who do need this day as inspiration to get out there and get a little frisky, go for it! I beg you… please go out there and talk about it, watch it, have it! Use this day to explore what you really like in bed. Take this opportunity to tell your partner what it really is you want done. You want her hand where? Tell her! You want his mouth on what? Tell him! You may even need a little alone time to discover your own body and use what you learn at another time. Maybe you’re a virgin who’s been putting off sex for years because you’re too shy. Well guess what! The day has come! Forget all your fears and inhibitions… have some sex and don’t be so shy!

If you want to learn more about this day and talk to other people about it you can visit the event page on Facebook by clicking here. Hey you never know… maybe you’ll even meet the person you can use your newfound sexual prowess with!

But just for the record: I definitely think every day should be “Let’s Not Be So Shy About Sex Day!”

Sex quote of the day: “Sex is a sensation. It’s about a man’s temptation, putting his location in a woman’s destination.”

It hurts so….good!

I think of sex as a way for two people to express themselves intimately. It’s private and very personal. Therefore, everyone has their own likes and dislikes when it comes to sex. As I was driving to work today I heard the song S&M by Rihanna and I started to wonder to myself…What is it about rough sex that people love so much?

Of course there are all different levels of rough sex ranging from light spanking and hair pulling to bondage and whipping. One thing they all have in common, though is the element of pain. If we all remember correctly, sex is supposed to be a good thing. So when did pain become a good thing? Well here’s something you probably didn’t know…

The same way that pleasure releases endorphins, so does pain! Endorphins are what your body release to make you feel good. So technically, when your sweetie gives your booty a spank or tugs at your hair, your body releases a chemical that makes you feel good. It’s up to the 2 of you just how much pain you want to inflict on each other. Did you know that because all those endorphins are being released during sex, the pain of a spank is actually lessened? So when you get what feels like a love tap in bed, that same thing might hurt a lot more if you were say…. washing the dishes. (no pleasure in that at all)

There might also be another reason why people enjoy rough sex so much. The act of inflicting pain on another person gives you a sense of control and the bedroom is always a place where couples play with the idea of giving and taking control from one another. Submission plays a big part in rough sex and gives way to some role play if you’re up for something interesting in bed. In the words of Rhanna… Sticks and stones may break my bones but chains and whips excite me!

Rihanna’s sexy video might make you want to give S&M a try!

So after your long day at work maybe you want to go buy a pair of handcuffs and surprise your honey! Like I always say… It hurts so good!

Sex quote of the day: “Is sex dirty? Only if it’s done right.”