Some say the ex…

You know what comes next!! For those of you that aren’t Biggie fans, the line goes: “Some say the ex make the sex spec-tacular…” & I’m sure many of you couldn’t agree more!


Just think about it: you find yourself single one day and in the mood; you’re hot and bothered and starting to get really frustrated (see my last post) You don’t want to go out and get some strange booty but you’re also not planning on turning to your right hand man (if you know what I mean) So what do you do?

Some would say the answer is easy! Call up your ex! Having sex with your ex has quite a few pros:

  • There are no surprises. Since you most likely have had sex with your ex plenty of times, you already know what you’re going to get.
  • No guesswork. The two of you probably know each other very well and know each other’s likes and dislikes.
  • No hurt feelings. Well, not exactly… surely someone’s feelings might be hurt, but then again you’ve probably hurt each other’s feelings so much already that it won’t really matter.
  • Comfort. Face it, we all just want a little love and affection. And with an ex, at least you know the feelings are there somewhere no matter how deeply they’re buried.

On the other hand, having sex with an ex can be stepping into dangerous territory. Researchers say “the behavior could be risky, pushing former partners into emotionally complicated territory where safe-sex measures are likely to be cast aside.” ( Because sex with an ex can seem so familiar, people might be less likely to use condoms, birth control and other precautions.

The fact of the matter is, when you’re feeling lonely & horny, an ex might seem like the perfect person to turn to. But just be prepared to deal with any consequences. I mean, they ARE your ex for a reason!

Remember, if you have your own thoughts and/or opinions on any of these matters or just have an idea for a future post feel free to e-mail me at & follow me on Twitter @jasmine_elissa

Sex quote of the day: “Sex is a part of nature. I go along with nature.”



So I know it has been a long time, but I’m back by popular demand! Plus, I’ve been having too many juicy conversations not to share them with you all!

Today I think I’ll stick with the underlying theme of this post: it has been wayyyyyy too long!! (which is slowly becoming a theme in my life) And I’m not talking about writing anymore. I mean sex!

So many of my friends have been coming to me telling me how it has been so long since the last time they had sex. In fact, a lot of them are even in bad moods because of it! But is sexual frustration a real condition? I say yes!

People can be sexually frustrated whether or not they are in a relationship with another person. I have one friend who has never actually been in a relationship and it’s not that she doesn’t want to be, but she is a strong independent woman and won’t settle for anything less than perfect when it comes to a potential boyfriend. But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t crave sex! Just because she hasn’t found Mr. Right doesn’t mean she wouldn’t like a Mr. Right Now. The opportunity just doesn’t present itself and she finds herself stressed and frustrated.

On the other hand, I know people who are in relationships that, for one reason or another, are not able to have sex as often as they would like. Or maybe one person wants to have sex more than the other does. This puts a lot of stress on the relationship and can cause issues between partners. Patricia Love, a marriage and family therapist, states “I think this is the most common frustration that men and women have.”

I think one of the best solutions for this problem can be summed up in the statement: communication is key! If telling your partner how you feel can potentially save your relationship spill it! And if you’re one of those who is not in a relationship but you have a certain someone who can fulfill those needs, get to talking! Craving sex is human nature people! It’s also a proven fact that sex can have a positive effect on your overall health and well being. Everyone has their own limits and needs so find out what that is for you and make it happen. & if it means we will have lots of happier people out there, please go out there and get some!!!!

Sex quote of the day: “There is nothing wrong with making love with the lights on. Just make sure the car door is closed.”