Sex on the Beach

I recently got back from a 10-day trip to Jamaica, which was an amazing gift from my wonderful boyfriend. Our time there could not have been any better. The weather was always amazing and the drinks were delicious! If you ever have the chance to go, I would definitely recommend it!

Here we are drinking a "Jamaican Smile"

Here I caught my boyfriend with the amazing scenery in the background

I have to admit, though, that after I found out I would be taking my 1st vacation with just my boyfriend to a tropical island, I wondered what it would be like to have sex on the beach. And I definitely don’t mean the drink!

I remember when one of my good friends told me he had gone on vacation and “did the damn thing” with his girl right in the ocean and they hadn’t even waited for the beach to clear off! Talk about risqué! It sure sounded exciting to me, but I still wasn’t sure if I could do something like that!

Once my honey and I got to the beach I think my mind was made up instantly. I couldn’t imagine being intimate and sexy in a place that had slimy seaweed touching me every few minutes and I definitely did not want to get sand in places where one should never have sand! The beach we stayed at even had grassy-like seaweed everywhere you stepped in the water & it creeps me out when I can’t see what’s under the water. For me, sex on the beach in Jamaica was a definite no! The romance and excitement about sex on the beach had disappeared 😦

And what if we had gotten caught? First of all, it would probably be the most embarrassing moment of my life & it would be rude to whoever had seen us. The resort we stayed at was pretty family oriented. Not to mention, I don’t know what the severity of our punishment would be. Lots of people have gotten off with just a warning, but public indecency is certainly illegal in most places and I wouldn’t want to be involved in any legal issues in another country. No thanks!

By the way, have you watched Sex and the City 2? Samantha gets herself into a bit of trouble in Abu Dhabi because of her sexual escapades in public 😉 Here’s a clip, but I suggest you watch the whole movie. I’m such a Sex and the City fan 🙂

Sex quote of the day: “A promiscuous person is someone who is getting more sex than you are.”

Safe (and good) sex

Everyone is always talking about having safe sex and all the precautions we must take when deciding to jump into bed with someone. But what is the 1st thing that comes to mind when someone talks about safe sex? STDs? Unplanned pregnancies? It’s all negative!

We should focus on what can be good… and I mean REALLY good about safe sex!

Let’s start with flavored condoms… If you’re going to have to put your mouth or any body part on a piece of rubber it might as well taste good right? Who wants to have that nasty rubber taste and smell on them? BUT with flavored condoms you don’t have to worry about that! Here are some of the flavors they have out there & I’m sure you can find many more…

Now how about condoms that can actually make sex feel even better! Yeah, I bet you didn’t even know that was possible huh?

Trojan Fire & Ice Condoms: These condoms have lubricant on the inside and the outside and it gives both partners a warm tingly sensation. And I don’t mean like putting Icy Hot down there (ouch!) This is the perfect subtle blend of both of those feelings! Plus, it won’t even feel like you have a condom on. Here is the commercial for these awesome condoms:

Durex Extra Sensitive Condoms: These condoms are 20% thinner than most other condoms so it feels like there isn’t anything there. And what’s better than feeling like you aren’t wearing a condom but being protected by one at the same time? They are even coated with a silky lubricant and don’t have a strong latex smell.

Those are 2 types of condoms that can help sex feel amazing and safe at the same time. For more of these check out this list of the best condoms at Consumer Search!

And you can always try other fun things to use with condoms like vibrating condom rings! Sex and vibrating are 2 words that always go together & always feel good 😉 Check some of these out at Undercover Condoms! And here’s an ad for one that was banned…

So next time someone brings up safe sex you know it doesn’t have to sound so negative and boring. Remember… now you don’t have any excuses to have unsafe sex. Safe sex can feel good too!

Sex quote of the day: “Sex is emotion in motion.”

Sext Cheating

So this morning on my way to work I was listening to Hot 93.7 and they were talking about Rep. Anthony Weiner. That’s nothing new though. Everyone is talking about him and his weiner! If any of you have been living under a rock and don’t know the story, here is the short version:

Anthony Weiner is a member of the House of Representatives from New York’s 9th district. Last month he sent a picture via twitter to a woman in which he was wearing only boxer briefs. Now he’s in the middle of a huge scandal as one could only imagine he would be! And let me remind you all… the man has not even been married for ONE year!

Here’s a video that gives some insight into what has been going on:

So here’s the interesting part of the radio show: some people thought this was not considered cheating. Now I find this to be a bit surprising. Here is a man who is sending explicit pictures of his private parts to women besides his wife and that’s not cheating? What is the meaning of fidelity nowadays?

One woman on the radio claimed that she was married to her husband for 12 years and that everything that took place via telephone was “free reign”. That means her husband can cheat over the phone but not in person? And how far can he go? I don’t know about that…

Other people thought it was definitely cheating. What do you all think about this? Did Weiner cheat on his wife?

Sex quote of the day: “Sex appeal is 50% what you’ve got and 50% what people think you’ve got.”

Sexsomnia

Jan Luedecke of Toronto was able to get his charges of sexual assault against a woman dropped after he claimed he didn’t know what he was doing because he was… get this- SLEEPING!

Apparently Luedecke had a history of sleepwalking but on this specific night he was doing way more than just walking. He woke up to a woman demanding to know what he was doing, but he claims he honestly had no idea he was having sex with her.

Under the law, if a person has no intent to commit a crime then he/she has not committed a crime. Therefore, Luedecke was acquitted!

Think this sounds crazy or unbelievable?

Well here’s the explanation: SEXSOMNIA!

Sexsomnia is a state of parasomnia that causes people to engage in sexual activities such as masturbation, fondling, sexual intercourse, sexual assault and even rape while they are asleep.

There you go… people love sex so much they even like to have it in their sleep 🙂

Sex quote of the day: “If you use the electric vibrator near water, you will come and go at the same time.”

Wii sex?

The Wii Fit promises that its users will “experience an extensive array of fun, dynamic and surprisingly challenging activities.”

For one Manchester caterer this proved to be ironically true!

Amanda Flowers, 24, claims  that after falling off of her Wii balance board she acquired an intense sexual addiction.

Supposedly it began as a slight twinge down below until it surged throughout her whole body.

Doctors told Flowers that her condition was caused by a damaged nerve from her tumble.

She controls her urges by breathing deeply until she can find a better solution (like a partner)

I don’t really know what to think of this story & I don’t know how credible it is, but I definitely thought it was worth discussing! What do you all think?


Sex quote of the day: “Sex & golf are the two things that you can enjoy even if you’re not good at them.”

Gaga preaches abstinence

So Lady Gaga is in the news AGAIN and it has to do with sex AGAIN. Nothing new, right?

But this time it has nothing to do with the constant gossip about her sexual preferences or the ongoing rumors about her genitals. (who cares anyway?)

This time Lady Gaga is promoting abstinence. She is advising her fans to stay away from casual sex because it is not the only way to feel good about oneself.

Apparently Gaga even agreed to distribute condoms to her fans at one of her concerts.

Looks like she is really dedicated to her cause!

She is also part of a Viva Glam campaign by MAC’s AIDS Awareness.

Way to go Gaga! Making a difference for young people while also showing them it’s okay to be different.

And as good as sex is she didn’t even have to have it to be cool!

Sex quote of the day: “Sex: the thing that takes up the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble.”

Define “sex”

What comes to your mind when you think of the word sex? How do you define it? I am sure if you asked 100 people this question you might get a lot of different answers.

On dictionary.com one definition of the word “sex” is sexual intercourse, which is defined as genital contact especially the insertion of the penis into the vagina.

But then where does ORAL sex come in or how about ANAL sex? Where do those fit? They have the word sex in them don’t they?

According to an article in the WashingtonPost.com a study was done in 2007 at the University of Kentucky in which researchers asked college students what actions needed to be performed in order for them to be considered sex. According to the study…

  • 98% consider it sex when there is vaginal intercourse
  • 78% consider it sex when there is anal sex
  • 20% consider it sex when there is oral sex
  • 9% consider it sex when there is intimate touching
  • 6% consider it sex when there is deep kissing

I think we can all agree that deep kissing isn’t really my idea of sex, but check out those numbers for anal and oral sex! What do YOU think? If you have an opinion on this e-mail me at thatssexual20@gmail.com and let me know.

Sex quote of the day: “The good thing about masturbation is that you don’t have to get dressed up for it.”