It hurts so….good!

I think of sex as a way for two people to express themselves intimately. It’s private and very personal. Therefore, everyone has their own likes and dislikes when it comes to sex. As I was driving to work today I heard the song S&M by Rihanna and I started to wonder to myself…What is it about rough sex that people love so much?

Of course there are all different levels of rough sex ranging from light spanking and hair pulling to bondage and whipping. One thing they all have in common, though is the element of pain. If we all remember correctly, sex is supposed to be a good thing. So when did pain become a good thing? Well here’s something you probably didn’t know…

The same way that pleasure releases endorphins, so does pain! Endorphins are what your body release to make you feel good. So technically, when your sweetie gives your booty a spank or tugs at your hair, your body releases a chemical that makes you feel good. It’s up to the 2 of you just how much pain you want to inflict on each other. Did you know that because all those endorphins are being released during sex, the pain of a spank is actually lessened? So when you get what feels like a love tap in bed, that same thing might hurt a lot more if you were say…. washing the dishes. (no pleasure in that at all)

There might also be another reason why people enjoy rough sex so much. The act of inflicting pain on another person gives you a sense of control and the bedroom is always a place where couples play with the idea of giving and taking control from one another. Submission plays a big part in rough sex and gives way to some role play if you’re up for something interesting in bed. In the words of Rhanna… Sticks and stones may break my bones but chains and whips excite me!

Rihanna’s sexy video might make you want to give S&M a try!

So after your long day at work maybe you want to go buy a pair of handcuffs and surprise your honey! Like I always say… It hurts so good!

Sex quote of the day: “Is sex dirty? Only if it’s done right.”